20 March, 2022
Q
I have two children – a daughter 6 years, and a baby son four months. Al-hamdu lillah, my daughter is very confident and has no problems getting on with anyone whether it’s a young toddler, children her own age or older, or adults.
I don’t know if this is a result of home education.
I went to school as a child and so did my husband and both of us were very shy (especially around adults). However, despite the fact that my daughter is confident she has told us that she does feel lonely.
We’ve tried to address this by allowing her to mix with other children as much as possible when we visit other families at the weekend.
Also, during the week we attend a mother and toddler group where she gets to play with other children of all ages.
We’ll also try and attend events with other home education families. What else can I do?
Answer
In this counseling answer:
• We should realize that our offspring are a trust from Allah the Almighty. A priceless gift from Him, but also a tremendous responsibility.
• Homeschooled children have the opportunity to attend literature circles, art classes, writing workshops, home-school family field trips, and many other activities.
• Have Muslim but also non- Muslim friends as well. Prepare them for the real life.
• Spend time with your older daughter alone when the baby sleeps.
As-salamu `alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
First of all, sister, I ask Allah the Almighty to grant you patience in your efforts to provide your children with the best educational experience possible.
I ask Allah to grant you confidence in your efforts to please Him by raising your children as model citizens. Finally, I ask Allah to grant you reward for the striving and struggling you endure as you raise your children.
Children Are Blessing – And Responsibility
Children are indeed a blessing from Allah. Therefore, like any other blessing that is bestowed upon us, we, as Muslims, should always show our gratitude for these gifts. We should ponder why it is that our Creator has granted them to us.
Just as we are to ponder the gifts of our health, vision, hearing, mental abilities, and strength, we should realize that our offspring are a trust from Allah the Almighty. A priceless gift from Him, but also a tremendous responsibility.
Having realized our responsibilities, however, we must also put our trust in Allah, and learn to practice tawakkul, or complete and utter dependence upon Allah. In other words, once we purify our intentions and do our best in our efforts, we must learn to trust …….
Source: https://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask-about-parenting/education/does-homeschooling-instill-shyness/